EPISODE 16: Stay In Your Lane – What To Do When Your Friend Cheats On Their Spouse
If your friend confessed to you that they’ve been having an affair behind their wife’s back (oh yeah, and their wife is pregnant), would you tell the wife about your friend’s infidelities? That’s the problem Charlie will attempt to solve this week, sent to advice column, Mrs. Webb. It’s complicated.
THIS WEEK’S PROBLEM:
Dear Mrs. Web,
I am a friend of a man who is married who announced last week that his wife is expecting their first child. I have never met his wife. He has had at least one extramarital affair, with a 16-year-old girl, which is over now. He told me all about this affair as it happened and it made me very uncomfortable. Yesterday he told me he has solicited a woman over the Internet, and is paying her plane fare for a secret sexual rendezvous.!
I got very angry and reminded him that he had a pregnant wife at home. “I seem to have lost my conscience,” he admitted. I tried to convince him to cancel this new woman, but he is adamant. He kept making flimsy excuses: “I must live sometime. I’m making up for lost moments. My wife will never know.”
I do not condone adultery and I think what he is doing is despicable, especially when his wife has a baby due. He said I am the only person who knows. Is there anything I can do? Would I be justified in writing an anonymous note to his wife telling her about her husband’s infidelity? He once said that if his wife ever found out she’d probably kick him out of the house. I am beginning to believe he deserves it.
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